25-05-2012, 02:42 PM
A thousand people read this thread every day, so I hope somebody has good advice.
My younger daughter's got a sweet tooth, and she has been using all her strength to refuse ice cream desserts lately. Three years ago, she was diagnosed with ADD. Her thyroid managed to make just enough T3 and T4, but only with Thyroid Stimulating Hormone (TSH) at the maximum end of the normal range. Both my ex and I were experimenting with vegan diets at that time, and the thyroid improved after we stopped the soy overload. We checked heavy metals too, but nothing was wrong there.
Puberty started at 14. My sister started spotting at 10, and both my ex and my elder daughter had BFs at 14, and were on bc by age 15. My younger daughter manages acne very well. A friend of hers waxes her eyebrows and upper lip, which is necessary. She's got big thighs, is not forming a waistline, and her breasts develop slower than her classmates'. My ex and I saw her specialist two weeks ago, and agreed that my ex would go to the GP for a good choice of bcp. The girl doesn't like swallowing pills, and the next thing I heard was that she felt like she was being pulled into this. So some damage is already done.
She'll be 16 in August. I don't want her to feel like the love of her parents is conditional, and depends on exactly how beautiful she becomes. There's a conflict with another part of me that wants to help her with everything I learned on this forum and more, to become the best she can be, with respect of course for her own idea of what's best (another conflict). I already gave her black seed. If I were her, I'd try flax too, but there's a third conflict with the accepted view on this forum that 15 is way too young for herbs, even for those herbs that double as healthy foods or teas. There is a conflict of conscience about the black seed as well.
A fifth conflict is in a feeling that her current development is in part a consequence of the thyroid issues three years ago, more than a sex hormone imbalance. But advising her to try L-tyrosine or even iodine enriched salt doesn't feel a lot better than black seed. My ex, by the way, started the black seed at the same time, and just two days ago gave me a huge breasted hug, saying she's going to stop black seed for now, because she's getting just too many compliments in the sauna. So there's the sixth conflict: is it really OK to show off that we can do anything we want with our bodies, while two of our children are still growing?
I'll fix a few details right away, like yogurt and fruit instead of ice cream desserts, and more after dinner walks. But the rest is just a blur of relevant but seemingly unrelated facts, conflicting thoughts, and an emotional standstill, because all the turmoil tells me I'm probably missing the one important point here.
So this has been bugging me for two weeks. Thank you for reading it all. Take your time to think about it, but I would really like to know how you would go about this.
My younger daughter's got a sweet tooth, and she has been using all her strength to refuse ice cream desserts lately. Three years ago, she was diagnosed with ADD. Her thyroid managed to make just enough T3 and T4, but only with Thyroid Stimulating Hormone (TSH) at the maximum end of the normal range. Both my ex and I were experimenting with vegan diets at that time, and the thyroid improved after we stopped the soy overload. We checked heavy metals too, but nothing was wrong there.
Puberty started at 14. My sister started spotting at 10, and both my ex and my elder daughter had BFs at 14, and were on bc by age 15. My younger daughter manages acne very well. A friend of hers waxes her eyebrows and upper lip, which is necessary. She's got big thighs, is not forming a waistline, and her breasts develop slower than her classmates'. My ex and I saw her specialist two weeks ago, and agreed that my ex would go to the GP for a good choice of bcp. The girl doesn't like swallowing pills, and the next thing I heard was that she felt like she was being pulled into this. So some damage is already done.
She'll be 16 in August. I don't want her to feel like the love of her parents is conditional, and depends on exactly how beautiful she becomes. There's a conflict with another part of me that wants to help her with everything I learned on this forum and more, to become the best she can be, with respect of course for her own idea of what's best (another conflict). I already gave her black seed. If I were her, I'd try flax too, but there's a third conflict with the accepted view on this forum that 15 is way too young for herbs, even for those herbs that double as healthy foods or teas. There is a conflict of conscience about the black seed as well.
A fifth conflict is in a feeling that her current development is in part a consequence of the thyroid issues three years ago, more than a sex hormone imbalance. But advising her to try L-tyrosine or even iodine enriched salt doesn't feel a lot better than black seed. My ex, by the way, started the black seed at the same time, and just two days ago gave me a huge breasted hug, saying she's going to stop black seed for now, because she's getting just too many compliments in the sauna. So there's the sixth conflict: is it really OK to show off that we can do anything we want with our bodies, while two of our children are still growing?
I'll fix a few details right away, like yogurt and fruit instead of ice cream desserts, and more after dinner walks. But the rest is just a blur of relevant but seemingly unrelated facts, conflicting thoughts, and an emotional standstill, because all the turmoil tells me I'm probably missing the one important point here.
So this has been bugging me for two weeks. Thank you for reading it all. Take your time to think about it, but I would really like to know how you would go about this.
). However you know as well as I do that at 15 she still has a lot of natural development to run through and aside from potentially screwing up her natural development, there is an equally good chance of actually achieving the opposite of what you want by forcing her body into conflict.
