I hope that I am not discriminated against for being male on this forum. I was immediately banned on another forum for a similar post seeking advice from anyone about how to manage breast obsession. I have found many threads on Google posted over the years, originated by men and women on this topic, frequently by women who themselves suffer from the same obsession, and the overwhelming majority of responses appear to rationalize and even justify it. I found a breastnexus thread that was the most realistic collection of well-thought-out responses (although with a super creepy one too!), and it lead me to believe that fielding my inquiry here would be appropriate. Please, please do not ban me! I am at my wits end here and becoming extremely depressed over it.
Here is the reference:
http://www.breastnexus.com/showthread.php?tid=12208
I think that I have a serious problem and would like to know if anyone has had success with therapy or behavioral conditioning to reduce or manage a severe preoccupation with huge breasts. My personal plight developed strongly as a very young child due to a discovery of hardcore pornography magazines around age four and a collection of hardcore videos around age eight. I am 34 now, and my obsession is frequently crippling. The amount of available and free pornography exploiting this obsession has increased by orders of magnitude consistently over the last decade. My past relationships have imploded because of it, and I am starting to sense that a full-blown fetish is taking root that will leave me unable to engage or function in traditional sex.
I am so frequently browsing and accumulating pornography related to breast worship/fetishism that it is impossible to hide it, and my girlfriends inevitably find it and feel extremely insecure and unattractive. This is reinforced by an accelerated decline in my desire to initiate or participate in sex with them. The process usually involves me being very attracted to them initially, even with sub-A cup breasts, and even falling deeply in love, and I believe for a time that love has conquered the issue once and for all. Once the brain-chemical "in love" phase passes I return to my bad pornography habits, I convince myself that I won't be happy with small or average breasts, and the cycle continues. What follows is a drawn out and gruesome breakup because we care about each other deeply and are frequently best friends within an otherwise loving and constructive relationship. I am positive that this would continue to happen even if my partner's breasts were gigantic because the problem stems from an objectification of breasts themselves, and I couldn't possibly bring myself to radically objectify someone I respected and loved like that, and I am worried that I am not capable of compartmentalizing or balancing my interaction with a partner in vs outside of the bedroom, for instance. It goes far beyond just sexual interaction, and my voracious consumption of visual stimulation and fantasy can not be focused on one object consistently, either way.
This cannot be healthy for me! I respect that for many people it is more of a natural and essentially harmless preoccupation, but surely I am perpetuating it to a fault. Any advice regarding professional help or anecdotal experiences with reigning this in would be extremely appreciated! I appreciate those that would like to be comforting, but I need tough love and real talk here.
Thank you!
Here is the reference:
http://www.breastnexus.com/showthread.php?tid=12208
I think that I have a serious problem and would like to know if anyone has had success with therapy or behavioral conditioning to reduce or manage a severe preoccupation with huge breasts. My personal plight developed strongly as a very young child due to a discovery of hardcore pornography magazines around age four and a collection of hardcore videos around age eight. I am 34 now, and my obsession is frequently crippling. The amount of available and free pornography exploiting this obsession has increased by orders of magnitude consistently over the last decade. My past relationships have imploded because of it, and I am starting to sense that a full-blown fetish is taking root that will leave me unable to engage or function in traditional sex.
I am so frequently browsing and accumulating pornography related to breast worship/fetishism that it is impossible to hide it, and my girlfriends inevitably find it and feel extremely insecure and unattractive. This is reinforced by an accelerated decline in my desire to initiate or participate in sex with them. The process usually involves me being very attracted to them initially, even with sub-A cup breasts, and even falling deeply in love, and I believe for a time that love has conquered the issue once and for all. Once the brain-chemical "in love" phase passes I return to my bad pornography habits, I convince myself that I won't be happy with small or average breasts, and the cycle continues. What follows is a drawn out and gruesome breakup because we care about each other deeply and are frequently best friends within an otherwise loving and constructive relationship. I am positive that this would continue to happen even if my partner's breasts were gigantic because the problem stems from an objectification of breasts themselves, and I couldn't possibly bring myself to radically objectify someone I respected and loved like that, and I am worried that I am not capable of compartmentalizing or balancing my interaction with a partner in vs outside of the bedroom, for instance. It goes far beyond just sexual interaction, and my voracious consumption of visual stimulation and fantasy can not be focused on one object consistently, either way.
This cannot be healthy for me! I respect that for many people it is more of a natural and essentially harmless preoccupation, but surely I am perpetuating it to a fault. Any advice regarding professional help or anecdotal experiences with reigning this in would be extremely appreciated! I appreciate those that would like to be comforting, but I need tough love and real talk here.
Thank you!