[loveme-hateme]

Hi... everyone

I feel really akward doing this.
Well you see I'm 11. Every one in my year (year7) has big boobs apart from me, I often get teased about how small I am and how I'm not growing up. If you have any advice please help and tell me.

loveme-hateme

[Run.Rabbit]

Girl, there is not much you can do at 11. I mean...you haven't even really hit puberty yet. We all know how hard it is to be flat chested when everyone else in your grade seems to have Ds but remember, some of them may be wearing gel or water bras. Or stuffing. Some of them just developed early. At MOST you could do certain massages and eat boobie healthy foods. I would suggest eating soy products and drinking lots of milk and eating lots of protein. Just be as healthy as you possibly can, and that'll give you the building blocks for boobs. You'll grow when you hit puberty, and then once you turn 18 you can decide what to do from there.

Until then, LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF! When I was eleven I got a lot of guff from people for being so, so flat. And yeah, it hurt but you know what? I still had great friends, boys still liked me and I still had a great life. Adolescence is hard and the only thing that you can do is get through it.

[Wahaika]

Dear loveme-hateme,

Do not eat soy at age 11 !

Soy and other ingredients could very easily drive your development the wrong way, making you smaller chested than you would have been. Other body parts, just as important, could also be affected.

Reasons to stay away from soy and other things that grown women take on this board are given below. (see below) It is from a message I wrote a long time ago. I know it's here somewhere. But here it is again. It is the advise given to all girls under the age of 18 who come here for help.


There are things you can do at age 11, with the help of your parents. I hope that you will talk to your mother. She knows how you feel because she was 11 too. Here is the best thing you can do for now: Don't worry about it. Avoiding stress and worry at developmental ages is very important. But asking you not to worry about that is like asking the impossible, right? So, here are some additional things you can do with the help of your parents.

Eat high quality meat a few times per week along with the rest of your meals. Steak or roast would be better than hamburger (mince meat), for example. Chicken is OK too, as are eggs. The point is that lots of times girls want to do the healthy thing. Everybody knows that vegetables, especially dark leafy greens and those with other bright colors, are the best thing for you. But sometimes people start eating only vegetables and nothing else in an attempt to be the healthiest that they can. If you do this (eating only vegetables but no meat) you will be keeping your body from getting everything it needs to build your body - some of which is found in meat. So, eat a good balanced diet and don't worry. Get plenty of exercise, be the best you can be in your school work and at home, and everything will be alright. You have plenty of time. Enjoy being 11, it only comes once in a lifetime.

Do not eat soy!

Best wishes,

Wahaika

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Here is the message that I referred to above:

To you who are under 18 years of age (actually, 22 is more realistic, but especially under 18). I hope that you will not make a decision which will result in unintended consequences later.

You are still growing and developing, whether you believe it or not. It is a well known fact here and elsewhere that some are late bloomers. It is very well known that women do not finish developing until ages 22 to as late as age 26. I'd say that you might want to wait. Whatever is keeping one from growing now will also affect an NBE effort.

But that might not convince you to wait. Make sure that you understand the following:

The herbs and other things referenced on this site and other sites work at the cellular level. Phytoestrogens (like fenugreek) work because they are close in molecular structure to real estrogens, so they dock to receptor sites and invoke the cell into an RNA sequence which performs whatever that cell is programmed to do. By using phytoestrogens, real estrogen is kept from docking with cells that have estrogen receptors because the phytoestrogen got there first. This is one of the theories why phytoestrogens can be good to fight breast cancer. However, this can also result in an excess of real estrogen because it was not taken up by cells. The hypothalamus/pituitary glands will register this in what is known as the negative feedback system. The body now thinks that it has too much estrogen and produces less real estrogen.

By producing less estrogen, development actually gets worse! Growth and development could very well stop dead in their tracks! Since the herbs and other things are systemic, that is - they circulate body wide through the bloodstream, other areas are affected besides the breasts. Reproductive organs in the pelvic area could be affected as well as the brain!

Also take into account that as a minor, your involvement on this site could easily result in legal action against those who help. This would result in the closing of this board, and others, and the information on here would cease to exist for everyone.

Please wait. You really have more time than you think. The reason these boards exist is to offer advice on how to best proceed, or not, for adult women who are finished with development. Those under 18 should heed the advice and wait. The unintended consequences are greater than you know, and are not worth the risk.

In the event that there are circumstances where endocrine manipulation is warranted, it is a decision best made by parents and you family gynecologist. Other specialists, such as endocrinologists could be sought out to deal with these situations. I think that their methods are far more reliable than anything found here.

[Run.Rabbit]

Woah, thanks for correcting me! I figured that eating some soy products or having a glass of soy milk might help but I sure was dead wrong. My sincerest apologies loveme-hateme , I'm just glad that it was caught before damage was done. Take Wahaika's advice.

You'll get through it hun, we all did. And do be sure to enjoy youth while it lasts. It goes by quickly, I promise. ♥

[Anastasia916]

I would think massage with regular body lotion should be fine, also as Wahaika said a good healthy high protein diet will probably make a huge difference. I have to admit due to situation when I was developing I didn't have the best nutrition, and that is probably why I didn't grow correctly. Maybe subliminal NBE MP3's would be safe? Definitely STAY AWAY from herbal NBE until at least 21 I say, AT LEAST!!! Some say 18, I think that's too young even, from my own experience.

As far as being 11 and flat chested and having others pick on you. To be honest honey, kids will pick on you regardless! The big chested girls get picked on just as well, trust me. I had a friend that was a 34DD by the time she was 12, and she did NOT wear padded bras, it was all her. And she got made fun of called a cow, many people called them cow utters. Unfortunately at this stage in life kids pick on each others all the time, and there is no way around it except to ignore it. If you don't let them get to you, they will stop, I guarantee it. And if not you can always get a gel or water bra or stuff, they will never know, because as rabbit said, most of them are doing the same thing! But yea kids pick on each other regardless for one thing or another. I got made fun of for being short, flat chested, skinny, not having the best clothes because my mom couldn't afford them, etc. Just remember everyone else that are picking on you, are just as insecure as you are, they are probably picked on as well. Hold your head high and don't let them get to you! They are just words.

[Ginie]

Agree with the above and just want to repeat how important it is to avoid stress! Stress inhibits breast growth (well, actually it messes up the whole hormonal system but breast development is what we talk now about here). If you don't want to stay flat chested just work on your positive attitude towards yourself, toward other people and the world! I know you're just a kid but I hope you can understand what stress is. Talk to your mother. Words like "avoid stress" can mean nothing to you yet. Maybe your mother will help, maybe you need to talk to a professional. Is there something you really like doing? Maybe reading, maybe painting? Music? Writing? Pets? Turn to those things instead of making yourself miserable.

I know, many girls develop super early nowdays! This is due to hormones in meat and dairy because animals are fed with hormones to produce more. This however doesn't mean that everyone is the same! You are unique. Everyone is. You WILL develop later (if you don't mess your system by stress or herbs or something else). Just be patient. Be healthy. Be kind to yourself and others!

[loveme-hateme]

Thanks everyone so I shouldn't use abreast pump

[Anastasia916]

For as young as you are I'd advise against pumps also. I know a shocker coming from me, but I don't think pumps should be used until you are old/mature enough to handle it. Also doing it incorrectly could permanently damage your breasts. I suggest massage and the same thing Wahaika said, good healthy diet. I know you probably hear this from a ton of adults, but I'm only 23, I was your age not too long ago, I wish I was 11 again!! If I knew then what I know now, I would have enjoyed myself more, instead of worrying about what other people thought of me, and worrying about boys haha. I'm sure that's another reason you want to change your breast size right? Let me tell you, boys NEVER know what they want until they mature, and they take LONGER to mature than girls do haha. So don't worry about them too much. Concentrate on having fun at whatever you enjoy doing, hanging out with friends, doing good in school and worry about boys when you're older and they are mature enough lol. I know everyone says that haha. It's fine to have a boyfriend and hang out with each other and such, but I wouldn't take boys too seriously right now as, just like you, they are just now starting puberty, have insecurities also, and have no idea what they really want!

So yea, you can do simple massages with regular body lotion or in the shower, and just eat healthy. For now that's all you should do until you are old enough hun.

[loveme-hateme]

I just watched the chi massage thing (thanks justplainwantsome) should I use that massage?

[Taelia]

Yeah go for it

You have to remember though that you are still developing and you might get REALLY big breast when you're 14 or something. My friend was completely flat chested until she was in Year 9 and now she's a D!

Your breast usually start to grow before you start your period, so keep that in mind.

Much Love ♥