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Vaginismus is not mental but physical issue. You need to find a good physio specialised in physiosexology and work on that issue.

Sorry, I don't know why my original post was in such a messed up format. Fixed it hopefully.

As I wrote, I already solved the issue of vaginismus. I don't believe it is physical at all. The vagina of a woman with this condition is exactly the same as that of a "healthy" woman. The muscles contract involuntarily and it is especially prevalent among women from highly conservative backgrounds, who attempt to lose their virginity on their wedding night, and among women who were sexually traumatized.

Have you ever experienced not being able to pee, because you knew others could hear you? And you really try to pee, but your muscles just won't let up? I think the principle is the same. Your muscles are the same as when you are alone and nobody can hear you, but the situation is different mentally.

I could write a lot more about vaginismus and my personal (successful) battle to overcome it, but it's detracting from the point of my thread.

Thank you for trying to point me in a good direction in any case