[EllaC]

Thanks for weighing in, you guys. It's such an alien thought that a cute, non-creepy guy could possibly like me.

We didn't exchange contact info... I was too shy to give him the "go ahead" signals to get close to me. *bangs head against a wall* I feel so dumb. I've missed opportunities in the past because of "shutting guys down," as my brother put it. You'd think I'd learn, but I just can't get past feelings of "He'll find me disgusting and hideous if I let him get close and experience me enough."

I'll look him up on Facebook, but I'd be too shy to friend him. I don't really get on Facebook, anyway, so it's not a good way to keep in touch with me. I'm making plans to take a trip with my dad to his church this month, though. If I see him, I will try to be attentive toward him and give him "signals." Also, his cousin goes to my church and goes to activities where the young adults from his church hang out and do fun stuff. He'd be there, and I'm still young enough to go. Maybe I'll see if I can go with to some of them. It's funny, I've actually been wanting to move to his city since the end of last year, and just applied to a job there before I left for camp.

I'm so nervous! My knee-jerk reaction when a guy shows interest in me is to hide. I'm so bad at this.

Thanks again for your comments, you guys. Any tips or tricks for dealing with guys are highly appreciated and welcomed, as I have no idea what I'm doing!

You already know this but THAT is whats holding you back, your self doubt. Ive said it before and i know its hard to do but SOMETIMES you have to pretend!!! Say to yourself "this is going to go one way or the other".. And take a big breath and barrel on up to him and start a conversation - find some common ground and suggest you guys do something.

To be fair MissB mentioning facebook, that is THE best way! You first send a friend request, make up a profile if you have to but make it private so he wont see any personal info (ps i still dont know how to do that) - and start by sending a friend request. If he accepts come back here and we talk you through the next step.

Just a story, i moved up to this town where i have no friends except befriending neighbours etc (but not being actual friends and doing stuff) and we joined a local club - one day i was like "bugger it i feel like a drink and not being on my own" so i went down to this club. There were all the locals there, this clicky goup, all men to i might add but i was like "how bad can this get, and do i really care what they think" so i ordered a drink and sat down on my own at a neighbouring table, after about an hour i sort of chipped in on their jokes and it wasnt long before i was asked up to their table and started chatting! That was huge for me, i felt like such a looser on my own going up there knowing nobody. But that started it, I PRETENEDED to be confident and not care what they thought of me being alone then started chattting and now i go down there all the time, my confidence is up and i see that MOST of them all started that way and had the same fears or new things and new people.

You gotta FAKE it at first because you need to meet a man, start that beautiful family you always wanted. You have to start now, you have us to guide you on how to do it if you need it. But dont hold back anymore BB, theres someone out there for everyone and if you are too shy its going to be alot harder. Men like confident women too, it doesnt matter if you are the most beautiful person or not, if you hold your head high, act confident (even if you dont feel it) people will be attracted to you!

Some of the men ive been with over the years, i wasnt attracted to them AT ALL but they had such beautiful personalities i put all superficial stuff behind me and gave it a shot.

Ok im all typed out! None of this is meant to be offensive, its just a pep talk because life is short, live it. Dont hide behind your insecurities, get out there and live it.