[blessedbreasts]

I have definitely heard about seeds have hormonal effects: Fennel, fenugreek, sesame seeds. I try to eat sesame seeds often. I just sprinkle them on my food, but I don't think I had heard of rotating them, though I have heard of the rotation diet where people try to rotate foods based on the season or temperature- maybe- to correlate with natural cycles. Like warming foods during winter and lighter foods in the summer.

PS: Really? Ugly? Disgusting? Does this kind of thinking or talking do something for you? Even when I was not confident about myself, I just couldn't write something like that about myself. Ugh! And right here?! Online, you are saying that about our friend!? Pshaw! Girl, you better not badmouth our girl, blessed breasts! I am about to go exorcist on ya! Devils and demons, leave right now and stay out forever! Angels, love, and light surround you! Amen! Aho! and Ashay! Some "ugly" people are the most beautiful people.
PPS: About the "romantic" relationship thing, Blessed Breasts, embodiment of love, tell me this: what is romantic to and for you?... ... ... [elevator music] Now, tell me if you exude that from your being. I don't mean that you are on a pulpit showing off or that you have it tattooed on your forehead. I mean do you exude the deliciousness of the girl that you want your ideal guy to love and cherish?
I am not saying that I and a lot of people I know are "psychic" enough to guess the lottery numbers and such. What I am saying is that, especially when people are more open and confident and caring about themselves and what is a part of their world, they may have more acute perception. I know that a lot of people can sort of sense, smell, etc, what kind of person a person is by unknown cues. Think about the people that you are drawn to in a positive way. We all have errors in judgement because we also learn.
Also, faith, hope, confidence all help.
Well, I have tried to be kind, considerate, empathetic, compassionate towards people in my life. It really works best when it starts, here [points at my heart]. I try to treat me as well (and better, you know it, girls!) as I treat others and because I am glad for others to treat me well! I was shy, shy, shy! Sometimes even I was surprised someone might like me, but even if someone show(ed)(s) me attention- for work, friendship, romance, family- I let them know that this is a valuable, fun, respectable, confident, worthwhile person they are getting to the opportunity interacting with! And you know who people like interacting with, very often? People like valuable, fun, respectable, confident, worthwhile people! That's me! Some people would say that flowers, dating, sex (which can be so base, at times) = equals romance! Ridiculous! In my opinion, sorry my frankness, none of those are obvious signs of romance for me. I am not arrogant, "high maintenance," or stuck up, but romance is much more for me than physical or hormones or "chemistry." Actually I am still a bit shy and careful about how I live, but I am more myself. Hehehe. Sometimes I embarrass myself because I am more "me," but life is better, now. I just accept for my life, as much as Source blesses me, to be the most wonderful life! I am worthy! Treat yourself well, be your own friend, respect yourself, romance yourself more and see what happens.

This is what I'm not getting. People are saying they're the same as me, yet they've been confident enough in themselves to get into romantic relationships. What? Have you ever seen the saying online "Are you a real person?" when someone is reacting to someone else doing something they think is inconceivable? That's how I feel when girls who have similar issues as me have romantic partners. I truly can't comprehend it. I feel so bad about myself that the idea of being with someone makes me feel grossed out for them. The (very) few times a nice, good-looking guy has shown interest in me, I've felt embarrassed for him. I can't help it.

I know I have to exhibit confidence and good feelings in order to attract someone. But the moment I'm around someone I'd like to attract, I immediately feel terrible and ashamed. My mind loves to sabotage me.

(For the record, this doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. I was fantasizing about applying for another job recently, and my brain went "Why would you apply for that job when so many other people would do it way better than you? Why would you get in their way?" I think a part of me feels like I don't deserve good things.)

Thanks for your kind words, charr, and for imparting your wisdom. Sounds like you've figured things. I truly do want to "exude the deliciousness of the girl that" my ideal guy would love and cherish. I just can't find it in myself, no matter how hard I try.

I've heard of the hormonal effects of seeds as well (I remember seeing a video where a girl was talking about how eating seeds had given her acne), but the idea of rotating them according to where you are in your cycle is genius to me! I'm definitely going to try it.