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Speaking for myself here, its so much easier to find someone you are just super content with and loving with half a heart and never getting jealous than it is being crazy in love over someone. That jealousy can be out of control! So yes, not saying this is your wife, but its better this way, I agree.

I'm not sure I understand what you mean. So forgive me if I got this wrong but you seem to be saying that you (but you seem to be inferring me too) are better off half-heartedly being content with someone than being "crazy" (in love) about them.

I can't speak for you and perhaps being "crazy' about somebody implies just that in your parlance with concomitant jealousy.

In my case, however, I know my wife and I love each other with our whole hearts and we are probably more in love than when we first married. I don't think that profound love or deep sexual feelings have to be accompanied by jealousy though I'm sure some people are more prone to it from nature or nurture than others.

Again, my apologies if I'm overthinking this, but I would hate to think that you can't get all that love and sex can offer because you fear that you or your partner won't be able to handle jealousy or other emotions. Wouldn't it be better to figure out why these negative emotions arise and see if you can fix that? Then maybe contentment can blossom into even more.

On the other hand, it seems that so few even reach a steady level of contentment with their partner in this culture that maybe it's better not to "fix what ain't broke". I don't know. I'd be curious what others think. I'm confident we don't all experience, love, infatuation, jealousy or passion the same way. Sometimes, maybe we can't even tell the difference ourselves.