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I'm trying not to be upset about this thing but I feel so played and like he doesn't even know what he's done to me. Thinking about it makes me upset, I hate people who make me feel this way. I want to confront him but maybe it wouldn't do any good. Or maybe he at least wouldn't do it to someone else. He's just making me feel like I'm not good enough, but he is the one who isn't good enough for me. I wish I had a punching bag. Like fuck. Why do I have to sit here and try to hold back balling my eyes out while he goes on his merry way. Do I confront him??

I would confront him. Two guys who tried to take advantage of me (although they weren't successful, they definitely led me on) I confronted about it and it gave me the closure I needed. Say how you feel but without appearing disappointed. Give it the old twist of you being confused and what was the point of making a false image that you wanted more than just sex and finally something about he should not do it again because other girls may be more trusting of him and that he may actually end up hurting someone. Emphasize that he is being fake when he puts up a facade like that. And fake people are a huge turn off, and then you can turn him down with that statement. Don't make mention of him hurting you. This is not your opportunity to cry to him or in front of him. You'll regret that later. Come off strong, like you just realized that this guy (who you never really cared that much about, btw) was just caught being stupid and you want to help him, sincerely (because remember you have nothing against him) by giving him advice. If you can own this mentality when you go to talk to him, you will feel even better about yourself. And who knows, maybe he will learn something. But he will definitely come out of that conversation respecting you more, as long as you can show/demonstrate that it did not effect you. Oh yeah, and don't actually come out to say that (that it did not effect you!) unless he asks. Volunteering that only makes it appear obvious that it did effect you. Just believe it as you talk to him, and it will show.

I hope that helped....

Oh, and PM me if you want a line to text him that may actually give you a chance at "winning him back" if you so choose, as obviously the above advice is if you want to move on from him. Just remember that most men out there are the same, and even great guys have the capability of seeing us for just sex toys if we make it easy enough for them. They are very driven by sex, and if they could have it their way, they would just be sexing every woman all the time. He saw the green light from you, and he went. He could actually want you again if you can gain your respect back and bring him back to thinking that he was interested in you from the start, not just for sex.