21-10-2013, 07:09
Well, I try not to be a judgmental person, I'm pretty sure that if you could talk to my best friend, Kelly, she'd tell you the same thing. She & I can talk about ANYTHING together!! We're more like brother and sister, the good kind, not the "Dad, tell her to stop touching me!!" type. So, you can bounce ideas off me if you want to.
I'm sorry I can't really help you, per se, in the relationship field. I've only ever had 3 girlfriends and I really don't even consider ANY of them to have been REAL girlfriends!! Sally, my first, told me she was only using me to make another guy jealous!! OUCH!!!! Soooo, you HAD to pop my cherry to do that???? A year later I had a fling with Carol, who, until 2 weeks before, had been married to my guitarist for about 3 or 4 weeks!! It's a long and incredibly stupid excuse for him to have left her, like that, but that's what happened, then we eventually became lovers, but, I didn't know that it was because she was on her way to having yet another nervous breakdown!! To this day, she does NOT remember ANYTHING about that spate in time when we were having sex!! As far as she knows, we are still best friends! 8 years later, I ran into Anu and, although we were an item for 10 years, she stopped having sex with me after 4 years!! You know the rest of that story, pretty much.
I REALLY don't know how guys go about getting girlfriends!! Or even fuck buddies or one night stands!! Two of my guitarists over the years had a different girl every night, even though they were going steady with or married to someone!! Have dick: will travel, I guess!! So, I can't really even tell you what HE (Luke?) is going through about you! I think I CAN tell you that guys are probably not very fond of girls that string them along. I know I'm not!! If you like the guy, just tell him!! Most often, if a guy likes a girl, it's REAL easy to tell!! He doesn't even HAVE to say so!! With girls, it's WHOLE new ball game!!!! They act like they like ya, so you take yer shot at her and she runs for the hills or puts you down, big time!! What the hell am I supposed to do with that, figure she's playing EXTREMELY hard to get?? They're ALWAYS on the defensive!! Yeah, I realize it's got a lot to do with their open plumbing, but, do they have to be THAT hard to get?? And why is it okay for Jason or Frank (guitar boys) to fuck `em just for the sake of fucking them, but I can't even get into a real relationship with one?? THEN, when they find OUT that some guy just used them for sex, guess who's shoulder they come crying on?? I don't MIND it, I'm happy to help them, if I can, but, can I get a break once in a while?? They ALL want a sweet, kind, loving, loyal, honest guy!! HERE I AM!! Take me home for $1.98!! But, they ALL go after total lying, cheating, backstabbing assholes like Frank and Jason!! (Sorry, I didn't mean to make YOU feel guilty.)
Anyway, as for your not being able to sleep, one thing you can try is putting on some nice music at night as you go to bed, Enya, Tangerine Dream, Solar Quest, B-Tribe, Orb, Enigma, Software, etc.. AND, you have a wonderful angst-reducing device right at your fingertips! It's between your legs! Let your fingers do the walking! (Maybe you're too young to remember that one!) If you'd rather not use fingers, get a German Shepherd and some peanut butter! ;-)
What do you mean by YOLO?
You can spill on the net because you don't have to deal with someone face to face and you're "talking" to a machine that won't exactly come back you for saying certain things. It's impersonal, so, you have free reign! Also, on here, you can have access ANY time you like!! Talking to a shrink only gives you 50:00 a week!! You want to try to get everything from the past week into the session before it's over and, quite often, that doesn't happen!! Something that I do a lot, but, mostly because I really don't HAVE anyone to talk to in person, is pretend to tell things to someone in particular. You get things off your chest, you'll probably feel better and you'll probably start coming up with your own answers!! AND, you don't have to worry about someone pushing you around if you were talking to them face to face.
I'm sorry I can't really help you, per se, in the relationship field. I've only ever had 3 girlfriends and I really don't even consider ANY of them to have been REAL girlfriends!! Sally, my first, told me she was only using me to make another guy jealous!! OUCH!!!! Soooo, you HAD to pop my cherry to do that???? A year later I had a fling with Carol, who, until 2 weeks before, had been married to my guitarist for about 3 or 4 weeks!! It's a long and incredibly stupid excuse for him to have left her, like that, but that's what happened, then we eventually became lovers, but, I didn't know that it was because she was on her way to having yet another nervous breakdown!! To this day, she does NOT remember ANYTHING about that spate in time when we were having sex!! As far as she knows, we are still best friends! 8 years later, I ran into Anu and, although we were an item for 10 years, she stopped having sex with me after 4 years!! You know the rest of that story, pretty much.
I REALLY don't know how guys go about getting girlfriends!! Or even fuck buddies or one night stands!! Two of my guitarists over the years had a different girl every night, even though they were going steady with or married to someone!! Have dick: will travel, I guess!! So, I can't really even tell you what HE (Luke?) is going through about you! I think I CAN tell you that guys are probably not very fond of girls that string them along. I know I'm not!! If you like the guy, just tell him!! Most often, if a guy likes a girl, it's REAL easy to tell!! He doesn't even HAVE to say so!! With girls, it's WHOLE new ball game!!!! They act like they like ya, so you take yer shot at her and she runs for the hills or puts you down, big time!! What the hell am I supposed to do with that, figure she's playing EXTREMELY hard to get?? They're ALWAYS on the defensive!! Yeah, I realize it's got a lot to do with their open plumbing, but, do they have to be THAT hard to get?? And why is it okay for Jason or Frank (guitar boys) to fuck `em just for the sake of fucking them, but I can't even get into a real relationship with one?? THEN, when they find OUT that some guy just used them for sex, guess who's shoulder they come crying on?? I don't MIND it, I'm happy to help them, if I can, but, can I get a break once in a while?? They ALL want a sweet, kind, loving, loyal, honest guy!! HERE I AM!! Take me home for $1.98!! But, they ALL go after total lying, cheating, backstabbing assholes like Frank and Jason!! (Sorry, I didn't mean to make YOU feel guilty.)
Anyway, as for your not being able to sleep, one thing you can try is putting on some nice music at night as you go to bed, Enya, Tangerine Dream, Solar Quest, B-Tribe, Orb, Enigma, Software, etc.. AND, you have a wonderful angst-reducing device right at your fingertips! It's between your legs! Let your fingers do the walking! (Maybe you're too young to remember that one!) If you'd rather not use fingers, get a German Shepherd and some peanut butter! ;-)
What do you mean by YOLO?
You can spill on the net because you don't have to deal with someone face to face and you're "talking" to a machine that won't exactly come back you for saying certain things. It's impersonal, so, you have free reign! Also, on here, you can have access ANY time you like!! Talking to a shrink only gives you 50:00 a week!! You want to try to get everything from the past week into the session before it's over and, quite often, that doesn't happen!! Something that I do a lot, but, mostly because I really don't HAVE anyone to talk to in person, is pretend to tell things to someone in particular. You get things off your chest, you'll probably feel better and you'll probably start coming up with your own answers!! AND, you don't have to worry about someone pushing you around if you were talking to them face to face.