[AbiDrew85]

So excited for you! Let's be honest, do any of us look like our profile pics? I doubt he even does!

Haha! Yeah... People do have a tendency to use only their absolute best pictures for that, if it's even a picture of them at all and not just some identifying motif.

I agree with the "maybe you should read my wall" thing. Maybe he already knows!

Thats another vote for that solution...

Also go you for telling him he was being a little creepy by texting you like that off the bat. At least ask for someone's number first. Goodness.

I knowwwww. Like seriously. But nah... I actually do get it. Having been the lioness in the wolves den yeah... Guys do tend to turn off higher brain function at the sight of a pretty face. Boobs or a little thigh and even lower brain function goes and all that's left is mating instinct. It's kinda sad but was also a source of infinite mirth when I got to say told you so when they later regretted said loss of mental faculty!

If by some chance he didn't read your wall, at least maybe this will open your mind to the thought of dating maybe?

If nothing else it's definitely going to tell me off for not having prepared for it!

Wow, Abs! How exciting! I am going to support the ladies' opinion above about telling him to thoroughly read your wall first-- and, hopefully, he won't be so hung up in his attraction for you that he actually will use his brain to actually read and understand what you have on your wall.

And a vote three for three who responded so far. Sounds like this is what I'll be doing after my shower and breakfast in a little bit. The waiting already has to be killing him lol!

And yeah... Hopefully...

However, I've had horn balls in the past who I asked (before I knew they were horn balls, of course) to learn more about me in various given ways, and when they are the horny kind, they do a great job at pretending that they followed through with learning more about me, just to check it off the list, but actually never really did... so watch out for that! But, I'm sure you already know this, as you said:

As I said before. Basically all my experience with guys says this is like 90% certain! And I was being a spy in their midst for over two decades! Part of what makes me so near paranoid cautious with guys is that I probably have a clearer understanding what they can be like than most other girls.

What a blessing, in that way, it can be to be in your shoes! Half the battle to dating is just trying to understand the other sex. At least you have experienced first-hand what most men wouldn't dare to ever do or say in front of a women. A blessing for you to have the knowledge, for knowledge is power, but also a curse... which is why this experience, which should be exciting for you, is more making you shit your pants! Personally, I would prefer to have the blessing and the curse that comes with the knowledge, because then you won't waste your time on some silly do-does because you can see right through them. I would love to be in your shoes in that respect. For some reason I attract all the bad boys and they do a really good job at appearing like good guys who are serious about me. I try to be very understanding as men see love and relationships differently than women, but I have a small suspicion that this tendency to be understanding could make me easily a victim of being taken advantage of. I wish I could see through bull shit with certainty!

Wow. Hadn't really thought of it that way to be honest. Only ever thought of it all as just a curse. But you're probably right. I tend towards trying to be understanding and accepting too. But with my past being what my past is I'm also cautious to the point of near paranoia.

Keep us updated on how this progresses! Hopefully he is cool about your past... And, if not, it's just not meant to be and he is not good enough for you!

Will do! And thanks for all the support girls! God... This is all just so NEW to me.

And yeah. If he can't handle it that's his problem. I just need to make sure I'm miles away when that shoe drops if it does. I wouldn't be strong enough to defend myself if it turned physical and guys turn physical easily. Especially when they think of the person they're angry at as another guy. And let's face it. If he CAN'T face it, that's what he'll be thinking of me as.