21-10-2012, 20:25
Very interesting and lots of good advice. I think you are both missing the deeper issue here and there is ALWAYS deeper issue. We know why it bothers you to see these posters. Why does he have them up have you asked him? What apart from the obvious does he want from them, are they a replacement or a positive visualisation for what he wants?
I'd just ask and see what's lurking in his head. It will answer a lot and help you decide if you really are compatible. It may be that you aren't and it's so hard to know in a new relationship. Also is dating been a new thing for him - ie is he new to it full stop was there someone just before you? If not it could explain that he is new to emotional relationships, partnerships and sharing perhaps. If so as he adjusts to the situation - you, the posters will go anyway.
I personally wouldn't be bothered unless it was a space I shared permanently, as I'd never have student-like posters on my walls! This is the reason why garden sheds were invented here in the UK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'd just ask and see what's lurking in his head. It will answer a lot and help you decide if you really are compatible. It may be that you aren't and it's so hard to know in a new relationship. Also is dating been a new thing for him - ie is he new to it full stop was there someone just before you? If not it could explain that he is new to emotional relationships, partnerships and sharing perhaps. If so as he adjusts to the situation - you, the posters will go anyway.
I personally wouldn't be bothered unless it was a space I shared permanently, as I'd never have student-like posters on my walls! This is the reason why garden sheds were invented here in the UK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!