20-01-2011, 07:41
Dear raw,
First of all I would like to express how sorry I am that you are caught in the middle of a family war like this.
If I were in your situation I won't change the facebook password instead I will open another personal account for myself and let my mum use the current one. Talking in terms that I am in your situation of course. This way of course you would not offence her or you could open another account for her and gradually let her get use to it.
Your mum has endured many years of physical and verbal abuse from the man that she depends on to love her and his family as well. I honestly don't think you can blame her for how she responded or behaves. Not only did she stays on in an abusive environment she is patience enough to take it in and still give birth to all the children that she have now like you. You are alive here because she endure all this abuse. At this moment she is only hope that somebody would side her or stand by her for some support. During years of abuse she got nobody to actually stand by her. I am sure not many of us ladies here will be able to endure such environment. I will tell you given your mum situation to me I have already ran away off my marriage.
I understand sometimes you might not be able to understand why she do what she does. Try putting yourself in her shoes and see from her view. This is at least something you can do for her after so many years of being a mother to you.
It is very difficult to change the old ways and thinking of the pass generation. What you can do is to change the ways and thinking of the future generation.
Whatever sin and hatred of the pass generation should not be brought down for the future generation to suffer. If it does it will be a never ending loop of sufferings.
I wish you all the best!
First of all I would like to express how sorry I am that you are caught in the middle of a family war like this.
If I were in your situation I won't change the facebook password instead I will open another personal account for myself and let my mum use the current one. Talking in terms that I am in your situation of course. This way of course you would not offence her or you could open another account for her and gradually let her get use to it.
Your mum has endured many years of physical and verbal abuse from the man that she depends on to love her and his family as well. I honestly don't think you can blame her for how she responded or behaves. Not only did she stays on in an abusive environment she is patience enough to take it in and still give birth to all the children that she have now like you. You are alive here because she endure all this abuse. At this moment she is only hope that somebody would side her or stand by her for some support. During years of abuse she got nobody to actually stand by her. I am sure not many of us ladies here will be able to endure such environment. I will tell you given your mum situation to me I have already ran away off my marriage.
I understand sometimes you might not be able to understand why she do what she does. Try putting yourself in her shoes and see from her view. This is at least something you can do for her after so many years of being a mother to you.
It is very difficult to change the old ways and thinking of the pass generation. What you can do is to change the ways and thinking of the future generation.
Whatever sin and hatred of the pass generation should not be brought down for the future generation to suffer. If it does it will be a never ending loop of sufferings.
I wish you all the best!