30-09-2010, 02:24
I agree with Mel, this guy is probably freaked out wondering if this questions his masculinity or some such thing, don´t blame yourself!
Moreover, don´t feel forced to initiate contact with him now but just let him get in contact once he´s calmed down a bit. (And if he doesn´t, just let him be, you don´t want to be perceived as a stalker or whatever!) It´s better for your self esteem to have a guy go through all the trouble of seeing you, if you know what I mean. For me there´s nothing worse than calling someone I´ve had something with and him going all cold and indifferent.
And if you meet again, just play it cool, you know, avoiding the "lets talk about what happened" or giving him romantic glances. Let him find out for himself if he wants to pursue a relationship with you or if he just wants to remain friends.
You know, that´s so typical like a woman to wonder if you did something wrong, if sex was bad for him, etc!! Try to focus on your own feelings, that will make you much happier in the long run. My advice would be to ask yourself what it was like for you, how it made you feel, how you would a sexual relationship to be for you, that sort of thing. That way you can start to weed out the guys and experiences you don´t want to have, and that will help you attain positive relationships in the future!
hope that helps some!!
Moreover, don´t feel forced to initiate contact with him now but just let him get in contact once he´s calmed down a bit. (And if he doesn´t, just let him be, you don´t want to be perceived as a stalker or whatever!) It´s better for your self esteem to have a guy go through all the trouble of seeing you, if you know what I mean. For me there´s nothing worse than calling someone I´ve had something with and him going all cold and indifferent.
And if you meet again, just play it cool, you know, avoiding the "lets talk about what happened" or giving him romantic glances. Let him find out for himself if he wants to pursue a relationship with you or if he just wants to remain friends.
You know, that´s so typical like a woman to wonder if you did something wrong, if sex was bad for him, etc!! Try to focus on your own feelings, that will make you much happier in the long run. My advice would be to ask yourself what it was like for you, how it made you feel, how you would a sexual relationship to be for you, that sort of thing. That way you can start to weed out the guys and experiences you don´t want to have, and that will help you attain positive relationships in the future!
hope that helps some!!