12-02-2016, 22:19
Maxwell Maltz's classic is the best starting point.
"The New Psycho-Cybernetics" is the updated version (Most recent I know of).
You can also google "Zero Resistance Living" which should bring up the Maxwell Matlz Foundation and a set of CDs from Matt Furey. I never got through the program, I've been meaning to for a LONG time (15 years or so). It's just not something that fit well in my life. BUT, it was good enough I was able to make positive changes a few times just from the dabbling I did.
CBT apparently is usually done with a therapist or instructor. I don't know how much it differs; from some googling today, it appears to be a "big brother" of the principles of Psycho-cybernetics, using an objective third party to guide you. Also used more for mental issues, such as depression, PTSD, etc.
I'd think you could start with Psycho-Cybernetics and get a start. If it appeals to you, then look to ZRL and/or CBT depending on what you've found out about yourself. E.G., you uncover childhood abuse, might be better to talk to a therapist who can keep you honest and accountable. You want to get over a bad habit, say eating a candy bar every day, Psycho-C might be more than adequate.
I'm going to look into Psycho-C again. I have no shortage of issues to deal with, and I'm trying to use the techniques already. Maybe I should read the rest of it, and learn about the follow-through on correcting the issues I have. E.G., PTSD from abuse & assault.... I know to stop the negative thought patterns, but what's next? How do I keep a uniform response afterwards? How to reprogram efficiently? Effectively? Etc.
The book is probably $10 in paperback. Used maybe a lot less. Hardcover was $22 when I bought it. Old version is probably pennies, no idea about Kindle availability.
Furey is a... Well, he's expensive. Products are worth the money, but expect to be aggressively marketed if you go to a seminar. Good products, again, but not cheap.
Then beyond that there'd be therapy. For the basic stuff, a counselor might be OK. If it's a real mental health issue, the CBT gives good, quick results, but I understand it doesn't solve the problem, merely corrects the behavior. It is possible to overcome to problem without analyzing it to death. For example, I'm not a child anymore, and I can inflict damage. But feeling the expectation of violence all the time? Not helpful. Makes social interactions difficult. I've flinched a lot, I guess; my boss won't actually reach out to me, for example, where you'd normally touch someone on the shoulder, say - he reaches, then stops before making contact. I'm aware that I've been following where he's moving and how... I guess he noticed that. I make myself smaller a lot, too. Turn sideways with my back against the wall. Smaller target, no one coming from behind.
I can spend years in therapy to uncover and maybe fix the root cause of the fear... or I can correct my actions so I don't accept the baseless fears, but don't lose my awareness, either. Don't want to get mugged, but don't want to go outside expecting to get mugged, either.
Hope that helps...
-Dianna
"The New Psycho-Cybernetics" is the updated version (Most recent I know of).
You can also google "Zero Resistance Living" which should bring up the Maxwell Matlz Foundation and a set of CDs from Matt Furey. I never got through the program, I've been meaning to for a LONG time (15 years or so). It's just not something that fit well in my life. BUT, it was good enough I was able to make positive changes a few times just from the dabbling I did.
CBT apparently is usually done with a therapist or instructor. I don't know how much it differs; from some googling today, it appears to be a "big brother" of the principles of Psycho-cybernetics, using an objective third party to guide you. Also used more for mental issues, such as depression, PTSD, etc.
I'd think you could start with Psycho-Cybernetics and get a start. If it appeals to you, then look to ZRL and/or CBT depending on what you've found out about yourself. E.G., you uncover childhood abuse, might be better to talk to a therapist who can keep you honest and accountable. You want to get over a bad habit, say eating a candy bar every day, Psycho-C might be more than adequate.
I'm going to look into Psycho-C again. I have no shortage of issues to deal with, and I'm trying to use the techniques already. Maybe I should read the rest of it, and learn about the follow-through on correcting the issues I have. E.G., PTSD from abuse & assault.... I know to stop the negative thought patterns, but what's next? How do I keep a uniform response afterwards? How to reprogram efficiently? Effectively? Etc.
The book is probably $10 in paperback. Used maybe a lot less. Hardcover was $22 when I bought it. Old version is probably pennies, no idea about Kindle availability.
Furey is a... Well, he's expensive. Products are worth the money, but expect to be aggressively marketed if you go to a seminar. Good products, again, but not cheap.
Then beyond that there'd be therapy. For the basic stuff, a counselor might be OK. If it's a real mental health issue, the CBT gives good, quick results, but I understand it doesn't solve the problem, merely corrects the behavior. It is possible to overcome to problem without analyzing it to death. For example, I'm not a child anymore, and I can inflict damage. But feeling the expectation of violence all the time? Not helpful. Makes social interactions difficult. I've flinched a lot, I guess; my boss won't actually reach out to me, for example, where you'd normally touch someone on the shoulder, say - he reaches, then stops before making contact. I'm aware that I've been following where he's moving and how... I guess he noticed that. I make myself smaller a lot, too. Turn sideways with my back against the wall. Smaller target, no one coming from behind.
I can spend years in therapy to uncover and maybe fix the root cause of the fear... or I can correct my actions so I don't accept the baseless fears, but don't lose my awareness, either. Don't want to get mugged, but don't want to go outside expecting to get mugged, either.
Hope that helps...
-Dianna