03-07-2014, 23:41
Honestly, I don't really understand why anyone would want porn-style posters displayed permanently on their walls. Not because I have a problem with porn, in fact, I think it can be great. But seeing the same image on a regular basis completely desensitizes a person to it and fails to produce a sexual response after a while, which is why people who use porn are typically always search for new videos/images.
That said, maybe there is an alternate way of dealing with the situation. What if the two of you went to a poster store/looked at posters online to see if there are some other posters that he likes (that don't chip away at your self-esteem) that you could substitute for the ones on the living room. Maybe as a compromise you could be okay with him keeping one of them, but hanging it in a less conspicuous spot (such as on the inside of a closet door?)
Or, you could suggest that instead of spending your time in his living room, which makes you feel uncomfortable, you could suggest being at your place - or anywhere else- instead. If you really love him and this is the only issue, there are plenty of ways to come to a compromise that doesn't leave him feeling that you are trying to control him. However, if this is indicative of a general disregard for your feelings that he typically displays, perhaps it's time to rethink the relationship.
That said, maybe there is an alternate way of dealing with the situation. What if the two of you went to a poster store/looked at posters online to see if there are some other posters that he likes (that don't chip away at your self-esteem) that you could substitute for the ones on the living room. Maybe as a compromise you could be okay with him keeping one of them, but hanging it in a less conspicuous spot (such as on the inside of a closet door?)
Or, you could suggest that instead of spending your time in his living room, which makes you feel uncomfortable, you could suggest being at your place - or anywhere else- instead. If you really love him and this is the only issue, there are plenty of ways to come to a compromise that doesn't leave him feeling that you are trying to control him. However, if this is indicative of a general disregard for your feelings that he typically displays, perhaps it's time to rethink the relationship.