26-04-2010, 20:47
I'm sorry that happened to you hun, that's just horrible! That's why I think it's best for anyone to wait to have sexual relations in most cases as your mate might be only after that. If they really care they will wait until you are ready. If they don't then that's all they are after. Unfortunately I've heard alot of cases like this where males have transformations into females, not even full op and get used by males they knew that knew them even as men, it's because some males have a fantasy to be with a "shemale" or "tranny" and it's only sexual nothing else, once they fulfill that fantasy, if they were only using you for that they will break it off. It's awful and even women get used in similar ways. I was fooled and used in the past by a guy who was engaged! I felt so dirty and ashamed of myself, but I had no clue he was engaged. He hid it from me, I knew him for 8 months or so before dating him, went on 3 dates or so then we slept together, shortly after I called him and his friend told me he was engaged and showed me proof online. He was using me as his last "fling" before tying the knot. I just had to go tell his fiance, it hurt me so much that he did that to her and used me to do it. He didn't go after a party girl that wouldn't have minded a one night stand, no, he went after me and used my emotions against me. Telling me he wanted a long term relationship and he would never hurt me.
Best advice I can give, get to know the person first, then on the 2nd date I'd say let him know you are a male but now a woman, explain your transformation and tell him if he's not okay with it you'd understand, make it so if he breaks it off that it will be cool. You will be surprised how open people are nowadays and how many would love you for you. Do it before you have sexual relations, cause if he's not into it, he may get violent. If you go on dating sites I would definitely put it in the profile, but also be careful of those just wanting to fulfill a fantasy or fetish. I hope everything works out for you, you definitely deserve it.
Best advice I can give, get to know the person first, then on the 2nd date I'd say let him know you are a male but now a woman, explain your transformation and tell him if he's not okay with it you'd understand, make it so if he breaks it off that it will be cool. You will be surprised how open people are nowadays and how many would love you for you. Do it before you have sexual relations, cause if he's not into it, he may get violent. If you go on dating sites I would definitely put it in the profile, but also be careful of those just wanting to fulfill a fantasy or fetish. I hope everything works out for you, you definitely deserve it.