[Anastasia916]

Maco, my son was the same, cord around his neck, forgot to mention that, that might have been why they couldn't find his heartbeat when he dropped into the birth canal. He came out blue, not breathing, etc. I actually seen him being worked on though, because he was still attached to me. And yes hearing him cry when he came to is that instant sense of relief. A friend I use to babysit for, her 3rd child was stillborn, so I was scared to say the least. I literally peed myself, have no clue how I even had anything in my bladder after all the pushing, but nerves do surprise you. I wouldn't say 12 hours is a quick labor lol, friends and family had their babies within hours after their water broke, mine broke and I didn't give birth until 12 or so hours later. A friend of mine, she had contractions, went to the hospital and her water broke there, her baby came out on the stretcher while on the way to the delivery room! So within minutes! She said it was so quick she barely felt anything, and that's with NO MEDS! I told her she was sooo lucky it was in the hospital. C-sections scare the hell out of me, you are much braver than I am. But again I have a phobia about surgeries. And wow a ruptured placenta! That sound absolutely horrific. I'm glad you and your babies are safe and healthy now. I didn't worry too much about after birth in taking care of my son, I had raised my younger sister from when I was 5 and she was born until my real mother remarried when my sister was 3 I was 8. And I had been taking care of everyone else's kids. The only new things for me was breastfeeding, no one else in my family did it, but the lactation consultant helped me with everything I needed. The only other after birth worries I had, when the doctor was done with his BS and I was able to move, I pushed the button on the epidural machine, and well... my effects after that didn't wear off for 2 days. I was unable to move from the under bust down for nearly a day, they told me I may be paralyzed. Which me having scoliosis was a possibility from the git go having a baby with him laying on my spine. I was having nervous system issues the past 2 months of pregnancy because of it, like legs giving out, etc. Then after I got feeling back, they gave me some pain meds for my pain from being sown down there, my vagina was so swollen it looked like I had two butts! Not even kidding! I walked like a duck for the first 3 months of my son's life, remember the doctor sowed me up wrong and I was having nerve issues from it. Well the pain meds they gave me were tylenol 3, little to my knowledge or anyone else's I was allergic to codeine, the main ingredient. I went into a dangerously high fever, convulsions, etc. etc. and they said they only gave me a 1/4 of the normal adult dosage. So a full dosage would definitely be fatal to me. I was in the hospital after birth for 3 1/2 days. Longer than normal cause of the after birth issues, and my son was jaundice also, not severe but enough that he was needed there as well. They say he was jaundice because of our counteracting blood types, I'm an O type (I always forget if I'm negative or positive) and he's AB+ they say any O type with any AB type is more likely to cause jaundice in the baby. Yea, to some my first pregnancy, birth and beginning of motherhood for me was horrific, but I've heard of alot worse, so I feel fortunate, and medically I shouldn't be able to have children. I never fully developed my uterus. It's narrow compared to most adults. I'm not technically suppose to carry a child past 3 months. And my son was full term, other than the jaundice was healthy. And I feel fortunate that against all odds I'm not paralyzed from pregnancy and labor. I'm hoping since I'm matured more body wise that my next pregnancy will be better. My cousin has 3 kids, she said the 1st was the worst. That after that they just start walking out lol.

Oh and no need to feel sorry, without the bad experiences in life we can't enjoy and even acknowledge the good, much less appreciate the good.