Scotti Wrote: For me I still desire anal play (though it's been a while). For one it makes me feel much more feminine, and two the orgasm experienced from it is like no other I've had. Likewise, when I do venture to look at porn and masturbate the scenes typically revolve around this same theme.
If you get your SO to venture down that road, look at getting a We-vibe and Vac-u-lock system or Feeldoe,
ClaraKay wrote: The most realistic dildo I've found is the VixSkin by VixenCreations.com. I bought the 'Bandit' model which is premium grade silicone, non-porous, and can be sterilized in boiling water or just put in the DW (oops - I mean dish washer...lol). The feel of this dildo is just incredible because the tip and outer sheath is a skin-like covering over a harder inner shaft.
Clara
EvaMarie wrote: Unfortunately for me NBE and now syn HRT has shrunk my prostate and I find it much harder to have an anal O....
They used to be earth shattering for me and I miss that...
When I work my nipples I can produce some pleasurable spasms 'down there', a sort of mini-O. I've never been certain that the feelings actually came from the prostate. I think that NBE, or probably more accurately PM probably has shrunk my prostate and it has certainly seems to me to have alleviated my BPH symptoms. My PSA score, after hovering around 4.5 for years has fallen to near zero in the two tests since I started PM in earnest. As I told the urologist who is dead keen to ream out my prostate, it can't be much of a constriction if a bladder stone 14mm x 10mm x 7mm (the dimensions subsequently measured by the hospital reduced the first dimension slightly but increased the third dimension) can zip through my prostate and urethra at speed and only jam at the external exit. I've never managed to produce much result by direct prostate massage, and the condition of my sphincter has long ruled out using anything as big as a Feeldoe. We have one and for me it's too painful to insert either way, despite penetration having been for me in the past an important part of trying to feel female. My own male function having been wholly non-functional for the better part of four years, I did get us a Vaculock harness and a dildo for it which was very similar in size and appearance to what I used to have, but I found that the harness gave me little feedback as to what I was doing, and I now use the dildo manually, sometimes with a vibrator in its Vaculock socket. My wife reckons that while it's not as good as I used to be, it's a great deal better than nothing and it, together with a Hitachi massager with a G-spot extension, are the only toys we have tried which really help us, although I try to achieve as much as possible without the toys on the same basis as I always have. My wife has always preferred having things done to her, and has always been and still is very reactive, but has difficulty in believing how much I get out of producing that reaction. A further compensation is that we can often go on at high level for as long as she wants, or can take it, without losing me along the way, although there is still work to do on developing my 'down there' reaction to her working my nipples (which has always been part of our lovemaking). Probably far TMI, but I hope what the OP asked for.
If you get your SO to venture down that road, look at getting a We-vibe and Vac-u-lock system or Feeldoe,
ClaraKay wrote: The most realistic dildo I've found is the VixSkin by VixenCreations.com. I bought the 'Bandit' model which is premium grade silicone, non-porous, and can be sterilized in boiling water or just put in the DW (oops - I mean dish washer...lol). The feel of this dildo is just incredible because the tip and outer sheath is a skin-like covering over a harder inner shaft.
Clara
EvaMarie wrote: Unfortunately for me NBE and now syn HRT has shrunk my prostate and I find it much harder to have an anal O....
They used to be earth shattering for me and I miss that...
When I work my nipples I can produce some pleasurable spasms 'down there', a sort of mini-O. I've never been certain that the feelings actually came from the prostate. I think that NBE, or probably more accurately PM probably has shrunk my prostate and it has certainly seems to me to have alleviated my BPH symptoms. My PSA score, after hovering around 4.5 for years has fallen to near zero in the two tests since I started PM in earnest. As I told the urologist who is dead keen to ream out my prostate, it can't be much of a constriction if a bladder stone 14mm x 10mm x 7mm (the dimensions subsequently measured by the hospital reduced the first dimension slightly but increased the third dimension) can zip through my prostate and urethra at speed and only jam at the external exit. I've never managed to produce much result by direct prostate massage, and the condition of my sphincter has long ruled out using anything as big as a Feeldoe. We have one and for me it's too painful to insert either way, despite penetration having been for me in the past an important part of trying to feel female. My own male function having been wholly non-functional for the better part of four years, I did get us a Vaculock harness and a dildo for it which was very similar in size and appearance to what I used to have, but I found that the harness gave me little feedback as to what I was doing, and I now use the dildo manually, sometimes with a vibrator in its Vaculock socket. My wife reckons that while it's not as good as I used to be, it's a great deal better than nothing and it, together with a Hitachi massager with a G-spot extension, are the only toys we have tried which really help us, although I try to achieve as much as possible without the toys on the same basis as I always have. My wife has always preferred having things done to her, and has always been and still is very reactive, but has difficulty in believing how much I get out of producing that reaction. A further compensation is that we can often go on at high level for as long as she wants, or can take it, without losing me along the way, although there is still work to do on developing my 'down there' reaction to her working my nipples (which has always been part of our lovemaking). Probably far TMI, but I hope what the OP asked for.