[TibetanPrincess]

I agree that people should research, but I think there's needs to be some understanding about the process of researching. You speak as if once you started researching you will know everything and thus, never need support or have questions you can't find the answers to.

My point is that I don't think that I am lazy (and actually cringe at you for insinuating that I am) but I do believe that we are at different points in the process. This is true for everyone on this board. I also believe that the support should be given to people disregard where they are in the process of finding what works for them. What's more, is that support does not necessarily equal free information. It can be letting the person know that they should research and maybe a few tips on how to, without being condescending.

Tibetan,
I'm sorry that you have been jaded, I hope I never get to the point of worrying about being hurt/insulted for sharing freely.
You've let your negative experiences stop you from doing what Emily is doing (sharing what she founds and taking credit ... I bolded something truly important. If you are worried only about yourself, why insult Emily at all?

I honestly do not want to stir the pot, but I feel that I am. My point is that whether or not we all want to admit it, if we were secure we wouldn't be on this site. If we were secure in ourselves we wouldn't be striving to change our bodies. But whereas one person attempts to make themselves feel more secure by insulting other, another can make themselves feel more secure by sharing beauty tips with others. I don't either person as being better than the other - I just wish that we could all get along with civility, consideration and kindness.

But I guess that's just a wish, huh?

Wow. Just wow.

I really thought that this site was supposed to provide information and support to women throughout their NBE/body enhancement journey.. Boy, was I wrong.

Even if honey was known to lighten the eyes, Emily was the one that brought it to the site. She's also the reason why so many users here have this thread to share what's working for them. Who cares if you knew about it before, you didn't share it, so why insult the person that shared and took credit it's popularity on breastnexus?

What happened to common courtesy?
Even if you don't care for that person, you should still communicate with tact and consideration, at least here on a support based forum.. I mean did here signature really warrant name calling?

Ladies, can we please be more supportive of and kind to one another..PLEASE?

Brilaw,

You have a wonderful tool called the search engine. Use your brain and research yourself. Don't be lazy.
Why should anyone be entitled to share anything. I got a lot of shit growing up just for being me. I was very pretty but underdeveloped. I never saw my own beauty or ignorance in my own innocence. I found out how rotten people can be. I was very nice to them and shared a lot of myself. This is just a general on my perspective now that I am older. So, I decided to just worry about me and not anyone else. So I don't often share as a result.However, it may be different for you.



All in all, its all about educating yourself.
Do your own research and share with like minds, that's fine. I could care less if this was brought here or not. But it seems many rely on others to get such information, almost as if they feel they cannot find it themselves. All they have to do is spend some time and effort to find their answers.

Generally speaking,
Don't feel so entitled to have any info spoonfed or even shared with you. And if you share, don't feel so entitled to have a self righteous attitude like you discovered something and
because you shared. But instead in reality, you have insecurities.


I have decided to cleanse with different herbs. Made my own caps and put some cascara in it. It a will be a slow cleansing for at least six months. I should hopefully lift some color.

Jaded? No. A harsh reality check? Absolutely. I know people and its ugly out there. I love this forum but I refuse to let people who are full of themselves run it.

I agree, most of us are here because we are insecure and want to change things. Its awesome to be in control. But I am a believer in checking your inside if you going to spend so much time fixing on the outside.

I never insinuated the research one does gives all answers. But you can find the scientific studies, conduct your own hypothesis and experiment yourself. But what I don't care for too much on this forum, is so many wait for someone else to try it before they do. For ex. I was one of the few to do PC for NBE (at the time it was not often used) and if I would have listened to all the naysayers on how it wouldn't help grow the breasts (especially the males, they thought PC= no good for BE), I would have never done my own research and would have listened and would not be where I am today. And the good that comes with that sharing is it has helped women like me who get no results from estrogenic herbs. I would just like to see more take their own direction and actually experiment whether its break questions or what honey should I use? That's all I am saying, aside from what I expressed to Emily of course.

I have been researching iris lightening for 5 years. I honestly never thought about bringing it up on a NBE forum and at that time, otherbodyenhancements was not here.

My intentions were not to jump on Emily but to call her out on her BS. Have you paid attention? It goes way back and before she arrived here, I am afraid.

There are so many other things that lighten the iris, you just have to find out what works for you and really experiment. You will get your answers and then sharing makes great ways to tweak what we all have found out in the process. That's why I said "Lazy." It looks that way often and it was a general expression as most people want the answers: what, how,when, where? I would like to think we can all be at the same level of taking it upon ourselves to each do our part and share. The more experiments we do, the more our research has merit.

I can admit, I'm a forum snob, what'd'ya gonna do?