I'm just curious if anyone on here got involved w/ NBE because of a relationship they're in or how telling their partner about it has affected things. I guess I need someone to talk to because my experience has stressed me out to no end. I started dating a guy a year ago. Right before we started dating I was sick for a month & I lost a lot of weight and I noticed my breasts shrank. At first he didn't really seem interested in my body and I thought he seemed to be paying attention to women with larger breasts. I snapped because I wanted to him to pay attention to me & to see him looking at different people killed me. I left him for a few weeks to think about our relationship and I started different NBE strategies. I gained some weight and had some growth. When I got back he did pay attention to me and my breasts way more and complimented me. He even said "idk what you've been doing but your body looks perfect" I still felt self consious and would start fights over stupid stuff. I left again (bc of family stuff not just bc we had been fighting) and now he's always texting me saying he misses me and my perfect body etc and even says he wants to feel & lick my boobs so bad. (Sorry if that is an overshare lol) but even though I love him I can't help but feel like I need to change more and I want to grow more before I see him again. I also would love to be able to tell him about my NBE journey but I'm far to insecure to let him know that I want to change my breasts and it would be embarrassing for him to know that I want to change so desperately. I've been so hard on myself and I need to find a way to be more positive because it's destroying me & my relationship
Sorry for how long that post was. I've just been feeling negative for so long and I need to vent and I have no one to talk to about this stuff
Hi DAISY,
It shouldn't be a cause for concern if you want to do something good for yourself.
That Is the primary reason! NBE, if done correctly, will be of a big health benefit and will add to your own self esteem. Your balancing your hormones, taking natural herbs, exercising and doing things to add to your healthy longevity.
The conversation with BF could go like this:
'I have been looking into NBE as a way to ensure my breasts health and to keep them toned and fit. It might make them larger too. Would you like to work with me on this.'
There is no strait man on earth that would say no. He might even volunteer to do the massages for you. :-).
Its all for a good/great cause.
Bobbi
(30-11-2015, 06:31 PM)daisy134 Wrote: [ -> ]Sorry for how long that post was. I've just been feeling negative for so long and I need to vent and I have no one to talk to about this stuff
You know, he may be the kind of guy that's into you when you are Perfect, but when you get sick, fat or pregnancy momma body, he will go back to looking at other women with Perfect bodies. He's that guy. You love him and that's great, but know that is a red flag or flaw in his true character. You may remain with certain insecurities because of it. It's like hes got that cookie that feeds that little monster. Be careful.
That is my gut feeling, sensors are going off.
This is sad..
Maybe I'm out of line..
Relationships should never be based off of looks..
WTF?!
TibetanPrincess, is so right..
i don't see why people are so hard on themselves or shameful of wanting to look better or sexier. Im pretty sure about 99% of guys wouldn't have any problems with their gf wanting to make their boobs bigger lol. heck that would be a dream come true if my gf wanted to do something like that.
Bobbi, That is a good way of approaching the situation. I could definitely feel comfortable saying something along those lines. I do feel the supplements I've been taking have had some heath benefits (non breast related) and I could mention that for sure! Thank you for your advice.
TibetanPrincess, You made a lot of good points! I have felt the same way about this issue being a red flag for me. I also felt accepted in my previous relationships & if I ever wanted to change it was for ME not for the person I was with. Me not feeling comfortable with him or secure enough to be open with him about this stuff is definitely a sign to me and I have been reconsidering our relationship a lot lately.
Jamie, I agree completely! Personality is so important to me and it's what makes someone attractive to me. I think that's why this whole situation is so brutal for me. I can't comprehend feeling rejected because of shallow nonsense and it's difficult for me to look past what happened when we were first together. I like to think that I'm a nice and funny person and for him to seem to hold a high premium on physical appearance was upsetting.
Goodwill, That is what I would think! But honestly he's the type of guy to question it and say it's a waste of time. I would love to know I could be open with someone about that. I guess the reason I feel kinda uncomfortable telling him is because of how insecure I felt at the start of our relationship. I keep trying to shake that feeling. I've never had this issue in a relationship before and it's difficult to overcome.
(01-12-2015, 05:00 PM)Goodwill Wrote: [ -> ]i don't see why people are so hard on themselves or shameful of wanting to look better or sexier. Im pretty sure about 99% of guys wouldn't have any problems with their gf wanting to make their boobs bigger lol. heck that would be a dream come true if my gf wanted to do something like that.
That's fine if they are doing it for themselves, but not because they are worried that the boyfriend/husband will start playing the field of they don't. Sooner or later, the guy will be playing around regardless.
Maybe I'm wrong maybe I'm not , but when a person is looking at another person to spend there lives together with it's how well the two can talk & care for a with each other not there looks time & life & who knows what can change looks & health but you will still have the other person . So if there's any thing that you can not talk about with the other person then maybe somebody is the wrong other person .
(01-12-2015, 05:33 PM)daisy134 Wrote: [ -> ]Goodwill, That is what I would think! But honestly he's the type of guy to question it and say it's a waste of time. I would love to know I could be open with someone about that. I guess the reason I feel kinda uncomfortable telling him is because of how insecure I felt at the start of our relationship. I keep trying to shake that feeling. I've never had this issue in a relationship before and it's difficult to overcome.
you missed your golden opportunity when he said "IDK what you've been doing, but you look great" you should have said "thanks! ive been doing some things I read about online to make my boobs grow and I think its actually working!". I mean if you wanna get bigger that's fine but it seems like he wants you already as you are now if hes texting you those things.