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I'm puzzled by what goes on in a male mind. Can anyone who used to be a male or knows men well enlighten me (and many other girls) on some questions? Please also share similar stories below

1. I have a friend (A) and she was seeing a guy (B) for a few months. They met in the States, but unfortunately, A had to return to Asia for the summer while B stayed in the States. B said he couldn't promise anything to A. In the middle of summer, B went to Asia and requested to meet A. A agreed, but later found out that B had been seeing SOMEONE ELSE in A's country. B had not met this new girl face-to-face until this trip to Asia! How is it possible that a guy can let go of someone whom he's been seeing for a while, for someone he's never met before?

2. Why do guys, and exes in particular, warmly wish you happy birthday, happy new year and merry christmas every year, like your statuses and photos, etc but when it comes to real communication, they do not initiate conversation, or sound cold when we girls do finally reach out?

I told an ex that I am going to his city for work for a few days, he was super cold. Whereas normally, he would always say things like “I hope I can see you again” ?!?!?!?!

3. Why would a guy say he doesn't want to do long distance relationship with someone, then go on to date other people from other cities?

WHY WHY WHY??

1. Darlin', I'm a guy (so far, but there's still hope), and I don't understand it, either!! Over a period of 8 or 9 years, I had two guitarists in my band that were "married" (one wasn't married to her, but they had 6 or 7 kids together) and the both of them STILL fucked anything in a skirt (except me, thank Buddah!!) that'd stand still long enough!!!! Apparently just one isn't enough for some guys. A lot of us are quite loyal, but, so very many screw it up for the rest of us by their "have dick: will travel" ethos!!

2. I'd say they're just being nice, but don't really want to actually talk to you anymore. I think, "Hope I can see you again" is just being nice again, although he really doesn't mean that he hopes to see you again. When you actually DO show up, or "threaten" to, he's wondering how he can get out of seeing you again. As long as you're a safe distance away, it's okay to pretend to be nice to you and SAY he hopes to see you again.

3. It's an excuse!! He doesn't want to do the long distance (or even very SHORT distance) thing with YOU. He's saying that way to keep you from being hurt. Apparently there IS SOME niceness in him, otherwise he'd just flat out tell you to shove off and never talk to him again, UNLESS, he thinks that at some point in the future, he just MAY want to "use" you for his sexual jollies again, so, best to just be nice, but burn those bridges only PART of the way.

Best advice: drop him like a hot brick!! He's not worth it!!
If you can't trust him 100%, it's doubtful it'll ever work out with you two.

Here is something to think about, from my own observations.

I work in a large production facility, ( 150+ employees ), so typically this is what I notice day to day.

If a guy falls out with another employee, ( male or female ) he can still respect that person and be civil around them. ( they still wont like each other, but they can still work together )

If a woman falls out with another employee, ( male or female ) she will try her best to ignore the person she has fallen out with, to the point of that person no longer exists. If she cannot ignore that person, there will be a cat fight. ( They don't like each other, and have to be separated )

To your original question.
A guy will normally try and be civil and still show respect from a distance, and yes, there is a good chance he may be doing it so he has a back up plan for a booty call. But if your going to pop around, you better call first.

It seems totally weird and hard to understand, as a normally males are not good at the communication level, were as women are.

Hey loverstilly,

Can I take a crack at this? First and foremost, there are far too many guys out there that just never grow up and continue to treat others with little to no respect. Then there's another lot that never saw a role model treat a woman with honor and chivalry so they're a little clueless, although it's not really hard to figure out - just go watch a couple chick flicks for goodness sake. These are a few reasons why I hate being associated with my birth gender. However, there's also a biochemical reason for some of the behavior. Girly girls get to blame a bunch of stuff on hormones and rightly so but guys are no different. Their bonding hormones aren't as abundant as a typical female and their brains are not wired for feelings and communication. That's why a typical female will utter 25,000 words per day while males are spent somewhere around 10,000 words (or so I've been told). ...On the other hand, it sounds like your friend "A" just picked a douche bag for a boy friend??? Better luck next time.