My name is Bethany and I am so new to this. I have been perusing the forum now for a few months and decided to post. I am a bio-male who has been locking away my female self for a long time now. I feel a sense of freedom in saying it out loud (so to speak) to others who feel the same.
I love to wear sexy clothes and picture myself in full girl mode in my head. I love how I feel dressed as a woman and love the way I envision my life as a woman.
Problem is, I am married to the most wonderful (old-fashioned) girl in the world. This would probably end our marriage as she could never understand why I am the way I am. I wish she would, but I think not. I am not sure how to come out to her or should i just let her catch me? Help?
I started out with an herbal cocktail to try and grow breasts (FG, SP, BC, EPO and Alfalfa) and infrequent breast massage. I have been on them for 3 months now and I have had a bit of success. They are more pronounced, a little heavier and way more sensitive to touch than they ever have been.
I want to know the best way to continue with good, steady growth and how to feminize my body. I am slightly muscular @180 lbs. I would love to put more in my buttocks and hips, less on my stomach and lose the muscle look. i would like to weigh 150-160lbs but more female curves. Any good suggestions?
As a mostly straight female (lol), I would be disheartened if I found out my husband whom I assumed straight was tinkering around with herbs to feminize himself. I'd much rather him tell me straight up and be who he is. I'd be hurt, like he is secret keeping or something... JMO
Has she noticed your breasts changing? I would def tell her. She deserves to know and you need to be who you are. She just may be accepting, unless you two are a newly wed couple. Maybe it will be a bit of a shock to her at first, but she may be okay with it in the end. It seems to be the case for many here, their partners are accepting.
welcome to the forum.
(02-10-2013, 05:09 PM)bethanyA Wrote: [ -> ]My name is Bethany and I am so new to this. I have been perusing the forum now for a few months and decided to post. I am a bio-male who has been locking away my female self for a long time now. I feel a sense of freedom in saying it out loud (so to speak) to others who feel the same.
I love to wear sexy clothes and picture myself in full girl mode in my head. I love how I feel dressed as a woman and love the way I envision my life as a woman.
Problem is, I am married to the most wonderful (old-fashioned) girl in the world. This would probably end our marriage as she could never understand why I am the way I am. I wish she would, but I think not. I am not sure how to come out to her or should i just let her catch me? Help?
I started out with an herbal cocktail to try and grow breasts (FG, SP, BC, EPO and Alfalfa) and infrequent breast massage. I have been on them for 3 months now and I have had a bit of success. They are more pronounced, a little heavier and way more sensitive to touch than they ever have been.
I want to know the best way to continue with good, steady growth and how to feminize my body. I am slightly muscular @180 lbs. I would love to put more in my buttocks and hips, less on my stomach and lose the muscle look. i would like to weigh 150-160lbs but more female curves. Any good suggestions?
bethanyb welcome
Glad to hear you expressed some relief for yourself,the herbs your on is a great start.Be careful with alfalfa,it's been know to cause problems for those who have dental fillings.Has your wife seen or said anything about your increase so far?
Lotus
(02-10-2013, 05:09 PM)bethanyA Wrote: [ -> ]My name is Bethany and I am so new to this. I have been perusing the forum now for a few months and decided to post. I am a bio-male who has been locking away my female self for a long time now. I feel a sense of freedom in saying it out loud (so to speak) to others who feel the same.
I love to wear sexy clothes and picture myself in full girl mode in my head. I love how I feel dressed as a woman and love the way I envision my life as a woman.
Problem is, I am married to the most wonderful (old-fashioned) girl in the world. This would probably end our marriage as she could never understand why I am the way I am. I wish she would, but I think not. I am not sure how to come out to her or should i just let her catch me? Help?
Test the waters first. Tell her you read in a magazine or paper somewhere about a guy that decided he wanted to grow tits, or become TS and see what she thinks about that. Then you can go from there as to how you want to play it.
Also, during an intimate moment, tell her that you'll always love her no matter what. But ONLY if you REALLY mean it!! If she says the same, then you can go from there knowing that she's PROBABLY okay with you doing this. But, still other things need to be done to make sure she's okay with it.
Maybe, one day, if you can fit into them, put on some of her clothes "for a giggle", including a bra with stuffing, and ask her what she thinks of it. She'll probably have a good laugh over it. Make light of it yourself, too, but not in a bad way. She just might suggest other things you can do to be more fem and even put make-up on you.
Just be careful how you play it!
Thank you Tibetan and Lotus for your responses.
Tibetan, I am conflicted in that I am gravely afraid to tell her (I know she deserves to know) for fear of losing her. We have been married for almost 20 years now and i have been very good at masking who I really am. I have overly-expressed masculinity and machismo so i do not think she has an inkling about my true female side. On the other hand, if I don't tell her and continue living as a man, then i risk losing the real (yet still buried) me. Damned if I do...damned if I don't!
Ultimately though ( and I hope this is not selfish of me) I would prefer to be who and what i am and hope she understands and supports me, but if not, I guess I will be in another relationship somewhere down the road.
Here are some pics after 3 months on my program:
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I agree with Miss, maybe you should bring up an article you "came across" and see how she reacts to that idea.
But don't let it keep you from treadin forward with telling her if its not so rosy on her end. No doubt you've fought it all these years, but its time to move on.
Oh yes, its very scary. But you must do it, you'll never be happy. Remember, its you at the end of the day, you shouldn't have to live like that. If its truly who you are and you are comfortable with it.
Have you not told her for you or for her?
As in: if you are feeling confused and don't know what you want for yourself, than I am sorry for you. That is a tough predicky to find yourself in. I understand if that is the main reason why you haven't told her all these years, rather than just the fear of hurting her.
Whew! This is a tough one! But we are not here to judge, just here to help. As a straight female like Tibetan I would definitely be hurt and upset, especially since you say she doesn't have the slightest idea of who you truly are inside. I would feel betrayed if after 20 years I didn't actually know you. I am probably a hyper-sensitive female though so I may not be the best example.
I know how hard this is for you and I am sorry. I am sorry that us humans must be created so complex and different from one another and that this world is so full of judgement. It makes everything so difficult.
I pray that this goes through smoothly for both of you. I would begin to slowly start introducing little hints of your true self, but be prepared that she most likely will not be okay with this. If you are a macho, masculine man like you say then that is the type she is attracted to and will probably be stunned to find out that deep inside you're the opposite.
I want you to be happy though, but naturally we would all want her to be happy too! Ah! What a tough one! Good luck! I guess that's the best I can say for now, and keep us posted!
How do I get my pics to post? Help please???
Try reducing your file (crop),it will only take 500kb at a time,it's frustrating but don't give up! You've been lucky to have the response for a newbie so far,some take that for granted,or expect an immediate response,and for some,they just get lost in the shuffle.
My wife wasn't to happy when she found out about my "hobby".... not that she old fashion... its more the not telling is equal to lying.... once that trust is lost its really hard to ever get back..... Welcome to the fray....